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22 January 2012 @ 08:37 am
Life in a House episode (H)  
Sorry for the long gap between entries.

It's been somewhat better, but still a lot of rinse and repeat with H's health. Even his doctors are making repeated references to Dr. House. They keep trying new medications, or eliminating old ones, at such a pace that I don't understand how they would ever narrow down what is working, or as seems to be the case more frequently, making things worse. The best (only) real news we've gotten is "It looks like it's not a tumor". I am going to try to start going to medical appointments with him, as we seem to get more answers when I do.

So, the job on my end is to keep the kids occupied and happy most of the time. SOOOOO GLAD Finn is in school four mornings a week. He does so much better with the structure of getting out of the house every day. I really hope that he does as well in full-day kindergarten and primary school, that he gets as much love from those teachers as he does from his 4K teacher, that he doesn't get bored, that the other kids are kind. 

Screen time was getting away from us a bit. I was reluctant to make changes, because it was so much easier to leave things lax for crazy or difficult days. But finally the guilt became too much for me, or maybe it was the CONSTANT negotiating over television and electronic devices, and I made a hard limit of one hour of screen time on school days, two on weekends. I know that actually sounds like a lot, but at least that includes everything: TV, computer, DVDs, handheld anything. To my utter shock, it went totally smoothly, Finn appears totally happy with the new system, and I've had zero pushback or arguing about it.* This has reduced arguing and "NO"s about 85% in our house and why did I wait so long? The really surprising thing (or not?) is that he's almost completely stopped watching television and wants to play Angry Birds and Cut the Rope all the time. At least it's good for his fine motor skills.

We were supposed to have a meeting about Freya on Friday, to find out if she qualifies for speech therapy. I never did write about it, but I was so glad I went through with the eval by the speech therapist. She confirmed that there are some gaps in Freya's speech development, I'm not imagining things, but she said Freya was the youngest baby she's ever evaluated! Anyway, she couldn't tell me right away if Freya would qualify for speech (she would have to have a 25% delay) and that's what we were going to find out on Friday, but the meeting was canceled. I got up at 5AM to clean and everything, but I guess it's not bad to have a cleaner house. Hopefully the meeting will be rescheduled soon. Anyway, at 14 months she is still not saying mama or dada, but since the evaluation she has started saying "Buu" for bus and ball, and "bup" for up, so she is making some progress. 

Way behind in reading, as I have been trying to cut down on screen time for myself as well,. so I hope I haven't missed anything major. 

*ETA: I NEVER should have put this in writing, as Finn is now having fits about not being allowed screen time all day today, and has requested that I set a timer for eleven, nay, twenty hours. 
 
 
 
fanlainfanlain on January 22nd, 2012 06:31 pm (UTC)
I'm not sure if our twins are behind in speech. The words they say the most are "Mama, Dada, bye-bye, and pee-pee". Tavi has started to say "doggie" though at times it sounds garbled and other times clear. The other words they've had have been one-offs or close to that like Tora said "doll" once when I said "doll" and never again said it. Tavi sometimes says "nana" for banana but infrequent. It sounds like maybe they are ok and this source. Twins tend to have speech delays compared to singletons so it's something I'm also trying to pay attention to, but I think they're ok even at 17 months. A child at playgroup definitely far outpaces our children on speech, but her mom said that her daughter does not problem solve very well like she can't put Legos together or build towers with them. That's something our children can do very well so I think their strength is more fine/gross motor skills - and much of the questionnaires we've done to date with our pediatrician have shown that that's their strengths and communication has always been their weakest area. We're trying to work out playdates so that this verbally-stellar girl (she's a couple months older) can play with our Lego-stellar twins and hopefully teach each other a few things. I noticed ours were ahead with the popup toy compared to hers too. Maybe because ours are always touching & getting into things nonstop. Ours also just don't sit down very easily like to color or do crafts like some of the other kids at playgroup. We've got two on-the-go children. It's interesting to me to see the differences among children within months of each other age-wise.

I'd be curious to know what you learn though because there was a mom in playgroup who had a child older than ours that was also not saying "Mama" and "Dada" so maybe I should try to tell her to go seek out help for that because earlier is better, and likely there are free community resources (not everyone in playgroup is well off so finances are definitely an issue for some based on conversations they've had).
kooky haberdashery for the richsueg on January 22nd, 2012 07:50 pm (UTC)
Birth to Three should be available in your community. I think 18 months or 2 years is a more typical age for referral, but someone told me our pediatrician does a lot of referrals for speech delay because his boys (who I think are twins) had a speech delay. If you are not concerned and your pediatrician is not concerned, your kids are probably fine. Freya is probably fine too, but I am just more comfortable following the pediatrician's advice and exploring our options, since the cost is minimal and the therapy non-invasive, convenient, and pleasant for Freya.